Polite People Pleaser

You tend to be a person who needs to be around people, and you want to be well-liked. Feeling connected to people energises you, and your sense of self-worth is reinforced by others. 

You work hard to gain other people's approval. You are likely to be affirmed and acknowledged because you tend to be perceptive, understanding and tolerant.

A possible challenge for you is the fear of being rejected. This fear makes you reluctant to challenge other people’s ideas (even if you disagree or feel that they are in the wrong). 

Please note that you may only exhibit some or all of these behaviour attributes listed.

 

Strengths

  • Considerate

  • Responsible

  • Good team worker

 

  • Perseverant

  • Accountable

  • Try to do your best

 

  • Flexible

  • Dependable

  • Accommodating

 
 

Challenges

  • People may take advantage of you

  • You tend to do far more than you ought to

  • You find it challenging to be assertive and say, “NO”

 

  • Others don’t know where you truly stand

  • Your voice and wisdom are lost

 

  • Others may not realist how much you take on, and they may not recognise that you are overburdened

 
 

Tips

Confidence-building is going to be your greater challenge and growth opportunity.

Be aware that expressing yourself may feel awkward initially. As you explore and experience sharing what you think and feel, you will discover that it can deepen relationships. And as a result, the relationship will feel more congruent.

So, paradoxically, the gift of expressing yourself will be the authentic sense of connection you are genuinely seeking.

Check out The Importance of Staying Connected, a free micro-course that explains why your voice is so important.

And, you may want to check out another extremely pragmatic micro-course, The Debate. The Debate is an important tool that will teach you how to bring your voice in a safe, collaborative and productive way. If you attempt The Debate, we suggest you experiment with it in safe spaces to grow your confidence.

Other useful tools will be the Check-in, The Steps of LDD and being aware of Communication Vices. You will learn about these and other tools in one of our foundation courses. For more information, CLICK HERE.

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